How do I get over my own Insecurity?

Question: RR (from anonymous) asks:

I have started a romantic affair with my next-door neighbor.  We both are very fond of each other.  We were friends a couple of months before we started kissing.  Now we are getting close to having sex.  I am completely love sick.  I was so confident, but now that I have feelings for her, I feel insecure.  I know her and I would have a great relationship.  How could I get past this insecure feeling and let this relationship flourish?

Answer: REALationship.com Expert Team:

RR, space and time away will make you more grounded and strong again. Often in relationships we get too close and do not give ourselves or the other person enough space. As a result we begin to feel lost. Spend a day or two without her, tending to yourself and your life and do this on a regular basis and you will find yourself returning to yourself.

Just be sure to tell her very gently that the space away does not mean anything except you just need time and space to tend to yourself. Make sure she knows you are not abandoning her.

Also be sure that you do not give into the longing to be together during the time you decided to devote to yourself. Let the longing be there, but focus on you.

  -RET

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